Why Is It Bad? This week I’m breaking my usual format a little to tell the story of a good friend of mine. I received several different versions of this statement submitted to me. “The type of porn you watch is indicative of what you really want.” “You should always […]
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Why Is It Bad? Confession time. I completely misunderstood this when I first read this submission, but context is everything. When I first started learning about sex, one of the first things I read was to make sure your woman comes first (in hindsight, that rule doesn’t actually apply 100% […]
Why Is It Bad? Remember how last week I said it’s okay to laugh during sex? Please laugh at this myth! Have a nice hard laugh. ;-P Movies, pornography, erotica, and romantic novels often sell this idea of climaxing together. If those are the only examples of sex that you […]
Why Is It Bad? Wow. If this was a rule, I probably would never have had sex. In fact, if you’re never letting yourself laugh during sex, I have to ask, what ARE you doing? Are you just completely silent like a pair of mannequins? Is it just a bunch […]
Why Is It Bad? I’m going to make a little confession. Every time I sit down and open the week’s submission of bad sex advice my immediate reaction is “Just No!” Then I put myself in the shoes of someone who hasn’t had as much sexual education as myself and […]
Why Is It Bad? What might not seem obvious from these few words is how quickly an opportunity for growth and real human interaction was transformed into objectification. We have someone who is curious and asks “how do I know when my partner is ready?” and instead of being told […]
Why Is It Bad? There is a famous line that was originated by Reid Mihalko (or Charlie Glickman they both came up with it at the same time) and recently made popular again by Jameela Jamil, “learning about sex from porn is like learning how to drive from the fast […]
Why Is It Bad? This week’s submission is a two-in-one, so strap in. Making sex all about the orgasm is like having a two-hour long four-course meal where everything is bland except dessert, and that dessert is a bite-sized macaron. Your entire meal is judged only on whether or not […]
Why Is It Bad? This idea is used so that people don’t have to go through the awkwardness of explaining sex to someone else, or worse, to cover up the fact that they don’t know what they’re talking about. Originally, the statement was meant to make people feel less shame […]
Welcome to the Bad Sex Advice Blog. This is where I’ll be deconstructing bad sex advice and sex myths. I’ll be explaining what makes them so bad, and what you should be doing instead. I intend to update the blog every Friday afternoon. Look out for the first post of […]